I'm wondering what to do, my 13 yr old step daughter who lives with her mom borrowed her mothers car the other night. She is really a good girl but it seems that she is lashing out against her mother for a number of reasons. One of the reasons is, about a month ago one of her friends committed suicide. (he was just 15 yrs. old) I am at a loss as what to do aside from counseling. She has mentioned coming to live with me, I don't know if that would help with the immediate problem. This is fucked, when I was 13 a friend of 15 committed suicide also.
I've come to terms with what happened so many years ago, but don't know how to help her or if I can ?
I am the only father she knows.
I've come to terms with what happened so many years ago, but don't know how to help her or if I can ?
I am the only father she knows.
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Re: At a loss !
Wed, July 9, 2008 - 3:24 PM"borrowed" or took it out without asking?
it sounds like you really care about this child nd maybe that is sufficient...only time will tell, really. I have a daughter that age, about to turn 14, and somehow your message makes me want to reach out for you.
do you have other children? do they live with you? are you still romantically involed with this girl'smother? wouklsd the courtts agree to you as a guardian if she so requested?
stay in touch, something about your message makes me feel yiou are quite likely the right person to step up to the plate... -
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Re: At a loss !
Wed, July 9, 2008 - 4:39 PMYes, she took it without asking in the middle of the night. In my mind it's actually kind of funny, seems how both her mother and I did the same kind of things when we were younger, and her mother taught her how to drive.(she didn't go very far, about a mile away on a old country road)
I do care about her very much, our relationship has been pretty rocky up until her mother and I split up. I'm betting she is harboring some resentment for her mother because of this.
I do have two other children, A 13 yr old son who lives in Missouri with another mom and a 9 yr old daughter who is half sister with my step daughter who has been living with me for the past year. (she is with her mom and sister for the summer)
No, I'm not romantically involved with her mother any more. For now her mother and I are discussing a week long visit which could go longer.
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Re: At a loss !
Wed, July 9, 2008 - 9:46 PMI think I was 14 when I first did that.
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Re: At a loss !
Thu, July 10, 2008 - 9:35 AMSounds like your instincts are right - even though you don't know what to do yet, it would probably mean a lot for her to see you are trying. Be with her for a while and see what develops. Maybe she just needs people to pay attention and can't ask.
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